Friday, January 18, 2019

As we Think, so we Reap

I know, I know... it does sound like a cliche...

But then, the laws of cause and effect, behave the same way in the veiled and unobserved realm of ours thoughts, as in the material world we perceive as our reality.

For most of us, the material world, and all that it encompasses is our reality.  

When we think about it, our individual reality is actually the combination of both the material world and the veiled realm of our thoughts.  Our thoughts are the cause and most of the things that happen around us are the effect.

Our thoughts are based on how we perceive the world around us; and how we perceive the world around us is based on how we think.  They way we think is usually a very set pattern shaped by not just our life experiences, but also by the meaning we assign to those experiences. 

Therefore, how we react to what happens around us is based on how we think.  This reaction in turn causes a domino effect.  So, the way we think is the cause and the domino effect is the effect.

Can this pattern be changed? It can. It changes as we learn to identify and become aware of reactionary thoughts as and when they occur, and learn to employ responsive thoughts instead.

Reactionary thoughts cloud our perception. Surprisingly, reactionary thoughts could even be positive thoughts about a situation. 

Irrespective of whether reactionary thoughts are positive or negative, they have the power to wreck havoc in our lives.

This post is based on the ideas in the book "As a Man Thinkth" by James Allen.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Men Vs Women

- We really are from different planets... even the language we speak is different...

How so? We may both, for instance, superficially speak English.  But the interpretation is way too different.  Guys are simply clueless.

A case in point -

The other day when returning home after a meeting, one of the participants requested a lift. While we were driving down to drop her off at her place, by way of a conversation starter she asked me, "Do you have to go home and cook lunch?"

To which I replied, "Hari's going to Villupuram after dropping me at home. My son is home though."

After a brief pause Hari said, " You didn't answer her question."

The lady was puzzled by Hari's statement and said, "But she did sir. She has to cook because your son is home."

Now, it was Hari's turn to look puzzled and he just said a vague "oh!".

At that moment, I recalled all those instances when Hari used to tell me that I did not know how to communicate. Once, one of my sons was on Hari's side in one such heated "you don't know how to communicate" argument.  I was piqued because sons were supposed to take their mother's side in an argument - right? Besides, I thought we'd raised our sons to be fair in their judgement; and here my traitor of a son was saying, "That's how you speak mummy; half the time, when we ask you a question, you give us a totally unrelated answer".


I'd never before realised women speak in a code of sorts that other women instantly understand. So, this was that 'ahha' moment, when I finally got what the poor hapless guys in my life were going through.

Unfortunately, there's nothing we women can do about it. An elephant can only trumpet and a lion can only roar.  So, we'll have to bumble along and instead of having heated arguments, smile at the idiosyncrasies of life... of creation.

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

What is Meditation?

So, how do you define meditation?
According to seers and practitioners, meditation widens the gap between thoughts.
Therefore, we can define meditation as the process that trains the mind to slowly and increasingly widen the gap between thoughts.

Why is it even necessary to widen the gap between thoughts?
Our waking mind is a thought factory churning out thoughts at an incredible speed. This is a good thing when they are engaged in a productive endeavor. However, this is rarely the case; when given free reign thoughts behave like a monkey aimlessly skipping from branch to branch.

They are either engaged in reliving past events both pleasant and unpleasant or speculating about the future. But this is an exercise in futility as the unpleasant events of the past cannot be undone and spending too much time glorying in past triumphs hinders productive use of time. While the past needs to be brought up occasionally for assessment of triumphs and mistakes, excessive indulgence  is an energy drainer. Similarly, no one has complete control over the future and speculating about it agitates the mind and leaves the door wide open for stress to walk in and take residence.

The practice  of meditation trains the mind to simply observe the play of thoughts, and refrain from active participation.

Generally speaking, the subconscious mind is an ocean of unfathomable depth and the conscious mind is a boat drifting aimlessly in its unpredictable waters. Meditation is a sophisticated tool that helps us train the conscious mind to skillfully take control and steer itself through calm and storm with minimum collateral damage.

When we refrain from actively participating in and contributing to the thoughts the subconscious  mind dredges up, the fuel that powers the thought engine dries up and thought production is forced to slow down.  When this happens, the mind receives a much needed rest, is revitalized, and is ready to take on fresh challenges.

What has spirituality got to do with meditation?
When meditation is given a spiritual flavour, it is preceded by mental spring cleaning. This involves learning to deal with negativity rather than suppressing it or letting it control us. Because of this thoughts turn introspective, which is a necessary step to instigate change and to improve quality of life.

The effects of removing negative thinking and behaviour, when blended with the calming effects of meditation, slowly transforms a person's outlook of life in general and inter-personal relationships in particular. The conscious change in behaviour patterns and attitude, triggers a chain reaction causing the behaviour of people around us to change as well. The process may be very gradual; but it is inevitable. This gradual yet steady removal of negativity nurtures and brings to bloom a sense of calm serenity. When serenity becomes second nature, we are better equipped to deal with the unexpected volleys life deals us with poise and dignity.